These lucid paragraphs below show belong to the book, I never tire of pondering, The Power of Now of E. Tolle , in particular, paragraphs "love / hate relationship" and " of addictive relationships lit relations."
These paragraphs do not appear consecutively in the work, but I've selected because they explain very well this reflection that the very Tolle offers:
These paragraphs do not appear consecutively in the work, but I've selected because they explain very well this reflection that the very Tolle offers:
"Unless you access to the frequency conscious presence, all relationships, and in particular relations intimate, eventually failing and being dysfunctional "
------------------" When you are together you feel full. The feeling becomes so intense that the rest of the world seem insignificant. However, you may have noticed that this intensity has a quality of necessity and attachment . You become addicted to another person. He or she acts on you like a drug. When the drug is available, you feel good, but the possibility or the thought of that person may not be available provokes jealousy, possessiveness, attempts at manipulation through emotional blackmail, guilt and accusations, in short, fear of loss.
------------------" When you are together you feel full. The feeling becomes so intense that the rest of the world seem insignificant. However, you may have noticed that this intensity has a quality of necessity and attachment . You become addicted to another person. He or she acts on you like a drug. When the drug is available, you feel good, but the possibility or the thought of that person may not be available provokes jealousy, possessiveness, attempts at manipulation through emotional blackmail, guilt and accusations, in short, fear of loss.
If someone leaves you, that fact may lead to more hostility or sorrow and deep despair. The loving tenderness can turn into a savage aggression or a horrible pain. And if so where has love gone? Can love instantly transform an opposite? Was it love at first there was only an attachment or addiction?
Here I am talking about what is generally known as romantic relationships, not the true love has no opposite because it arises from beyond the mind . Love as steady state is still very rare and rare, as rare as a conscious human being. However, there may be brief and elusive glimpses of love when there are discontinuities in the mental stream.
Here I am talking about what is generally known as romantic relationships, not the true love has no opposite because it arises from beyond the mind . Love as steady state is still very rare and rare, as rare as a conscious human being. However, there may be brief and elusive glimpses of love when there are discontinuities in the mental stream.
Love is not selective, just as the sun is not selective. It goes to a special person. Is not exclusive. exclusivity has nothing to do with the love of God, but with "love" of ego . However, the intensity with which true love is felt can vary. There may be a person who reflects the love you more clearly and more intensely than others, and if that person feels the same to you, you can say you're in a loving relationship with him or it. The link that connects you with that person is the same as you join with the person sitting next to you on the bus, or a bird, a tree or a flower. The only thing that varies is the degree of intensity.
still in an addictive relationship may be times when you shine a little more respect. Something beyond addictive mutual needs. There are moments when both your mind as your partner disappear briefly and the pain-body gets numb temporarily. "
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